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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What I notice in these arguments is for all the SAHMs to say something like: "I tried working after kids but it wasn't for me and this set up works better for our family. I'm happy with it and I don't care what other people do."

And then there are a few working moms who can NOT let this go and have to INSIST that these women only see their husbands as paychecks, that the husbands themselves are totally miserable (have you not met any ambitious alpha types btw? They're all over the place and they'd be miserable if they weren't working and competing in some way), that they have no lives, never travel, never do fun stuff, never go out for girls' nights or girls' weekends, have nothing to talk about, kids are being stunted, etc. etc.

And then a bunch of SAHMs and even some working moms will come in saying, "uh, that's not really what I see" but they just won't let it drop.

That's the kind of behavior that makes me think these working moms (like the engineer who keeps engaging) is really jealous. [u]Not of being a SAHM.[/u] That's important to note. But of the money their husbands usually make.

In the DC area, SAHMs tend to be really rich. Like, with HHIs way over 750k and net worth of several million. Multiple kids are in private school, lots of household help, they have second homes, they take amazing vacations, the whole nine yards. That's my reality. That's what I see in my neighborhood and community. The women themselves are usually Ivy educated or similar and had impressive careers before having kids, which they could have continued with had they wanted to. So to say these women have no choice in the matter is ridiculous. They have all the flexibility they desire. This lifestyle of luxury and ease is what they actively selected our of an array of choices.

I am not a SAHM by the way, nor are we rich like that. But my sister is and a lot of her/our mutual friends. This is what I see. To feel sorry for these women is laughable. It really is. It's literally feeling sorry for the 1%. Joke's on you.[/quote]

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Working mom here. This is what I see too. I'm sure the drudge SAHMs exist but to be honest, I don't really know any. The ones I know (at our Big 3 private) have always had nannies, cleaning staff, money for travel, obviously private school, college funds, etc.

One of my best friends is a SAHM (not in DC) and she spends her time riding her horse and acting as a docent in a major metropolitan museum. She doesn't get paid but it is very much a job with responsibilities and commitments. It's actually fairly prestigious and sought after among retirees and such. [/quote]

Your posts are pointless.  Sure if you’re part of the .0001% and attend the Met gala then life as a SAHM is probably fantastic.  You can get a lot of satisfaction from leisure activities than working.   However most SAHMs, including those who live in DC, don’t life this kind of lifestyle.  It’s more common in LA or NY, but not here.  If you’re that wealthy I don’t really understand why you live here.  This isn’t a city for the wealthy.

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