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Living way below our means is not a brag. It is a way to prioritize what is essential...college and retirement.   It means A longer commute for my DH, average cars, average wardrobes, home cooked meals, and living with substandard home public school. It means spending money on EC,  teaching my kids at home so that they are high achievers and can go to  go magnet schools.
It means a weekly cleaning lady who can take over the exhausting chores and that I can use my extensive education to guide my kids.

The thing is that my DH has brains and he is strategic. He supports me because he wants our kids to get the best care and counselling from a highly educated mom. He has allocated my talents in a sphere that benefits our family and our children the most. He is a decent earner who wants to come out ahead in areas of his life that I can make happen...high achieving, well raised happy kids, a smooth running household, a beautiful house, meeting his social and family obligations.  And he does not gaslight me like OP is doing.  Yes, sure I could have make around 100k and that would have made our household wealthier but what would be the point?  He comes home with stories of his colleagues divorcing, the kids having issues with drugs, drinking, teen sex, dropping out and he is immensely grateful of my role and our lives.

I don't for a moment feel bad that we are living in neighborhood with the lowest ranked public schools. We made some sacrifices in housing, commute. But we were very strategic about what we valued. It is amazing to see slow and steady winning the race. I would respect and love my DH even if  he made  less money because I am smart enough to make silk purse out of a sow ear, but I would have divorced him if he gaslighted me like OP.
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How is OP gaslighting his wife? They agreed she'd be home when the kids are little. The kids are no longer little.  It's time to earn her keep.

No one cares what your husband thinks.  OP's wife isn't married to your husband.

Plenty of kids out of SAHM households do drugs.  Plenty of kids out of divorcing homes do not.

Educated parents don't make their children go to the lowest ranked public schools.  Your decisions are nothing to brag about.[/quote]

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