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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are in college and I can say that on the whole, the entire experience was significantly less fun than I had been led to believe it would be.

It was lonely as hell.  If your kids are smart, then the gunner parents will surround you in all your kids activities, and there will be no shared spirit of camaraderie or 'we're all in this together'.  If your kids aren't smart, then you will spend all your money on tutoring perhaps, and may feel disappointed that they're not as smart or academic as you.  Or as athletic, or social, or whatever.

Unless you're one of those incredibly lucky women married to a guy who's a saint, you will likely fight a lot over whose turn it is to do what. And he'll probably get to advance farther in his career and feel more successful than you will.

No matter where you fall on the working from home, working from work, staying home, selling MLM and pretending you're working, there will be someone doing it better and bragging about it, and you'll likely feel torn about whatever of the somewhat sucky choices you have chosen.

You'll wish you had more money and see others giving their kids things that you can't afford (like better schools) and feel guilty.

I always felt guilty because my kids weren't geniuses and on some level, I felt disappointed that they weren't winning the Pulitzer or something, and then I felt guilty for not just thinking they were terrific no matter what they did.

I hated never having significant chunks of time to do anything for years.  I hated rationing and doling out the trips to the gym, walking the dog, sleep -- feeling like I was always late to be somewhere and like I never had enough time to do anything.

I guess I just thought it was going to be easier, cheaper, more social and more fulfilling.  When I hang out with the women in my neighborhood whose kids are in college, honestly, we're all a bit shell-shocked.  Everybody's had some big disappointment along the way and nobody's kids turned out perfectly.

HOnestly, I think all those pinteresty ladies who brag about how fulfilled they are are lying.  
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This sounds like some truth.[/quote]

Wow. Every word. Truth.[/quote]

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