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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, just another stranger reading your story and wishing you well.  Please feel free to tell me to eff off if this is inappropriate, but have you decided what to do name-wise? Like a female name, or one that is gender-neutral (since I recognize that you don't know exactly what you will be dealing with - or if it's even anything abnormal at all!)

Agree with someone who posted earlier - this baby is lucky to have you.[/quote]

Thank you for the well-wishes and kind words. We're looking at gender-neutral names and also names that lean one gender or the other, including some that have switched over time/historically (think of things like Tracy, Ashley, etc.). I have a gender-neutral first name myself and while I found it annoying growing up (getting mail addressed to "Mr. [Name]" and all that), as an adult I've really come to love it, so that's definitely an option on the table. We just haven't settled on any particular name or direction now since we don't actually know very much - the degree to which the baby's external appearance will lean one way or the other, what the situation is internally, what the doctors may recommend, and of course the (remote, I know!) chance that actually everything is totally normal. It used to be the norm not to name one's baby until actually meeting them, so we've just reverted to that practice until we figure out how to move forward. Apparently another PP has taken that as evidence we're looking to "shove the baby into a gender box," as if we're waiting to make sure we can safely name them Ammabella Vagina McFemaleGirl or something and provide only lace-trimmed clothing in the pink and lavender color family, but that's decidedly not what's going on here. Simply put, we know virtually nothing right now, so it seems wisest to decide nothing until we need to. [/quote]

Vagina McFemaleGirl Smith. There you have it!

Op, You literally made me laugh out loud with that in the midst of all you are going through. Your grace under pressure is remarkable. You should be so proud of the way you handle yourself - even in front of strangers on the Internet. You are a gem.[/quote]

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