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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men generally age at the same rate as women, but they are not  enculturated to believe that about themselves.

Anyway, who cares. It was their date, [b]unless they were rude to the couple marrying, no biggie.[/b] [/quote]

This is when the "friends" who are jealous of the couple start gossiping about what the woman supposedly did or did not do that night.  So catty.[/quote]

You know, it is possible she was a complete dolt. [/quote]

It doesn’t have to be jealousy at all.  I find it bizarre that everyone is assuming that she’s awesome because she’s young. She could have been a complete dick. [/quote]

PP here.  I have seen how grown adults can be really nasty when they feel "more deserving" than the next guy, and it is not pretty.  In my 20's, I saw the older employees, who were supposed to be long time friends - and close, treat another employee, usually male, like rubbish if that guy had some hot young girlfriend.  God forbid they get engaged.  Not all hot young things are dolts - in the situations I have seen, the hot young things were more educated than the older (very bright, very accomplished) boyfriend.  I think there is a stereotype that comes to mind seeing an older guy with a pretty younger woman - whether or not you admit it, people assume that the pretty young woman is a dolt or something less flattering.  Not always true, believe it or not.

Some people hate on young women, that's all. Maybe they did not have such a great life during that period in their life - we will never know what triggers some people, but we can have a good idea based on their actions.  Usually, catty people are not that way for no reason, an it is not because they are happy people, in general. The pretty young woman would be smart to stay away from people who don't support her and her fiancé - if I was pretty and young, I would. [/quote]

Right, but you’re still assuming that pretty equals perfect.  I know amazing brilliant gorgeous young women. I’m not saying that it’s not possible, or even common. What I’m saying is this person might’ve just not been one of those women.  That other stuff is just projection.  Also it’s a lot of horny lonely guys wanting to make a case for something that may not have been what was up. It’s fantasy fodder. 
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I am not confusing the two (beauty and perfection) personally - but I can see how jealous people might.  If I was young and beautiful I would not GAF about what unsupportive supposed "friends" are saying behind my back.  I know plenty of people who are shortsighted and not that bright.  Example:  the most common confusion I see here on DCUM is that "rich is equal to perfect".  Similarly, I know that some shallow people think that beautiful people have no problems (much like they think rich people have no problems).  Everyone has problems, but if you have a brain, you know that.  Gossips would be much better off staying in their lane, though they hate to see other people happy, don't they? [/quote]

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