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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your DD weighs 53lbs at almost 12 yo; nowhere near puberty; and 3 years bone delayed -- which doctors at NIH assessed as a consequence of inadequate nutrition. She cries because she is unable to eat more than a few bites. Her cousin nearly died of an eating disorder. And despite all this, neither her father nor her therapist nor her primary pediatrician is concerned? Truly bizarre.[/quote]

I think people need to lighten up on OP.  She's working with a lot of doctors, most of whom are NOT that concerned.  There is a lot of natural variation in people's bodies.  Puberty isn't considered "late" unless the girl hasn't had her period by age 16, so it's entirely plausible and normal that puberty could be years off for an 11 year old.  (I think something like 5-10% of Caucasian girls don't have their period by 14.)  I had a grandmother that lived on butter, meat, potatoes and dessert twice daily, yet never weighed more than 90 pounds unless she was extremely pregnant -- which is just to say that size is a bell curve, and some people are going to be at one end of it regardless of what they do.  I agree that the fact that OP's daughter gets upset about eating is not a good thing, but she's working on that.  Berating her this way is really not helping (and she may be right that this is all increasing her daughter's anxiety around food).
OP, good luck with the new doctor.  If you find some great solution, please come back and post, as I think there are many people who are struggling with the same questions.[/quote]

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