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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't do my own cleaning or laundry.  My best friend does both.  It has never once been a point of contention between the two of us.  Instead, I sympathize with her if she gripes about spending time on those tasks and she never makes nasty comments about how I don't do it.

I do wonder if there's something about the way OP said something that was what bothered the friend.  I can't empathize with several of my friends (i.e. my ones whose husbands are in the military and get deployed - I've never dealt with that, or the ones whose husbands never changed a dirty diaper - I never had that problem), but it doesn't mean I can't sympathize with them.  Because, you know, that's what friends do.  So if OP was weird in response to someone making a comment about having too much laundry or cleaning being such a bear, then yeah, I could see that person not wanting to be friends with OP anymore.  You ought to be able to sympathize with your friends even if you don't understand exactly what they're going through.  And maybe that was the problem.  (OP, I'm not trying to be mean here, for the record, I'm not accusing you of having done or said something bad, just suggesting that perhaps that's the source of the problem).[/quote]

[b]I think I’m too old to try to fit in.[/b] I am not faux humble as someone suggested previously. I absolutely can sympathize with other people though.

Being a SAHM is new territory for me. Having a new baby after having self sufficient older children is also different.

When my older kids were younger, there were plenty of people we only met once for a play date. Some we met a handful of times. I was often the unavailable one. I think I am overthinking this. I shouldn’t have to hide my home.

I didn’t realize my thread would be so popular. [/quote]

I highly doubt this is it. DC is full of "older" moms. [/quote]

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