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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again-

Just to clarify. I never said what my mom said was okay or not offensive. It wasn’t okay and it was rude. I told my wife that. I do not think my mother meant them to be offensive. She doesn’t just walk around being rude and awful to people. I think she spoke carelessly and without thinking and it’s time for my wife to let it go. My wife is the type to be offended when my parents give me a large sum of money for Christmas and give her a small amount on a target gift card.[/quote]

[b]The fact that your mother gave YOU money for Christmas and gave HER a much smaller amount on a gift card for Christmas, and the fact that you seem to think this is all totally normal, is very telling.

[/b]You're married and you have kids together. Good grief.

A normal married couple, if they receive money from their parents, get it as a combined gift. Not "here's a big cash gift for YOU, my darling, oh and here's a little token gift card for you".

Your wife is right. There's something really wrong with your parents. And all of DCUM can see that the apple didn't fall far from the tree.[/quote]

DP  That is the way it works in our family, on both sides.  We would think it was extremely weird if we received a joint gift.  Who wants that?  We're separate people.  I appreciate it when I receive a gift that is given with my interests in mind, and so does my husband.

PP, you are having a very strong reaction to something you can't control (other people giving gifts to you).  Why is that?

I think the practice of my family is very common to our social set.  I cannot think of any couple that receives a "joint" gift from either set of parents.  That just seems odd.

Anyway, clearly you are outraged about OP.  I just wanted to chime in that the gift-giving thing is actually pretty normal in my family and in our social set.[/quote]

OP is talking about money, not individual gifts tailored to their individual interests.  His parents aren't treating them as a married couple and he's apparently ok with that.  I'm thinking his wife should take him up on that.
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