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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote][quote]And if you're not telling Fred that his mustache looks great, you should not be telling Frieda that you like her haircut.[/quote]
Also, FWIW, if Fred has a new 'tache, I'd definitely tell him it looks good. But apparently, you think I should never do that either.[/quote]
18:21 responding to my own comment to make sure the context is complete.

Just so we're clear, I'm the PP who posted many pages ago that I'm much freer with my compliments of male co-workers than female co-workers.  I'd readily compliment Fred on his 'tache, his shoes, his pants, his tie, his weight loss, his haircut, etc.  For me, because of concern about workplace standards, I essentially refuse to acknowledge female co-workers exist below the neck.  I don't look at them below the neck, and I never comment in any way on anything below the neck.  I'll compliment a female co-worker's new haircut and maybe her earrings, but nothing else appearance-wise.

I know you and some others want to paint me as some obtuse lech.  In reality, I'm a social guy who thinks the world is a better place when people feel good about themselves.  So I hand out compliments and kind words constantly.  Most of the compliments are about how people handle projects or other things, but I'm not shy about complimenting appearances either.  Friendly comments like that are just how my mother raised me.  [/quote]'
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You know what's not friendly?  Not listening.

PEOPLE.DO.NOT.ALWAYS.WELCOME.COMMENTS.ABOUT.THEIR.BODIES.  [/quote]

P.S. People don't need your comments to feel good about themselves.  I know you think you are doing some heroic service to the world, but really you're not.   When you compliment people's appearance, you just reinforce the idea that appearances are important. They are not.  [/quote]

PP do you support dress codes?  Are they releasing in a world where appearances should not matter?  I'm guessing you do not speak to people you find unattractive, but believe that you should not be judged on how you look.[/quote]

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