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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- I didn't disappear, I was getting school stuff ready for my youngest. I really try not to say no, and if my husband can take her he will, but he does travel(attorney as well) several times a month, and when he is gone, it's hard for me to load everyone in the car at 7pm to take her target. I truly try and spend as much one-on-one time with her as I can, I already have my youngest in daycare until 6:30 just so I can take her to her dance lessons. I am stretched thin and she flips out when I tell her no and starts going on and on how she never gets to do anything. [/quote]

Sorry, I have ZERO sympathy for you.  You could easily live off of one attorney's salary and if one of you didn't want to stay home FT for a few years, than one of you could work PT.  A traveling Dad and a Mom that works until midnight?  I feel sorry for your kids.  Your daughter is right.  Wake up.  They are only young for a small window of your life and you are missing it.  [/quote]

Ok, here's the deal. You gotta get over the mom guilt. You husband doesn't feel badly that he isn't taking her to Target. She needs to recognize that you are not a taxi service and she's old enough to have her act together and make sure that she lets you know what she needs in advance. Just about every teen at some point says "You never let me do anything." or "You are never here" whatever. Hyperbole is their currency and I'm sure she knows that you feel badly that you aren't doing as much for her as some of the SAHMS do. So what. Not everyone can or wants to be a SAHM.  There are perks to having a SAHM, but there are also drawbacks - they have a harder time getting away with things and I'll never arrange an internship for them.

This is the life you have. You are allowed to be a whole and actualized person. You love them, they are more than adequately provided for and that is enough. Believe you me, somewhere there is a child who has a SAHM who is saying "Why don't you work like the other moms? Maybe I could have a car or a phone if you both worked. Its not your money. Its Dad's money." They will get you no matter what you do! Let the guilt go. Own your decisions. Let her know that you and Daddy will have enough money so you won't have to move in with them in your golden years! Do what you know is right for your child and for you and try to take the commentary with a grain of salt. (I'm also the SAHM who said I wouldn't go to Target at 7 at the last minute either. We're not all tending to their every whim)[/quote]

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