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The kids have struggled, so I'm not going to sugarcoat that.  The youngest refused to talk about or even acknowledge the divorce (he just turned 8), and started exhibiting lots of anger at home and at school.  The older one (he is 10) started having discipline problems in school.  While my STBXH insisted that it was all in my head, I insisted on getting them in to counseling.

During one of the early sessions, the therapist had the younger one draw a picture of his family.  He drew a rocky mountain (which she said is a child's way of depicting lots of instability) with me and himself standing at the top of the mountain holding hands, with rainbows and flowers and big smiles.  Daddy was drawn in black at the bottom of the mountain, laying down with his eyes x'd out, dead.  His brother was half-drawn as an afterthought.  When the therapist showed it to my STBXH and I, you should have seen his face . . . he was like "I don't think it means anything."  It is really hard to see the kids struggling with this, but they have to go through it.  They really do. 
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NP here and I want to congratulate you OP for getting your kids to therapy.

I also want to comment on your son's picture.  I'm married to a wonderful father, and we have framed up on our wall a picture our DD drew a few years ago.  It's a huge hill, and DD is on the top, rocketing down on a scooter, big smile on her face, butterflies buzzing around her head.  The hill gets progressively steeper. She's rocketing towards her father, who has his arms stretched out to catch her.

Your XH blew that. It makes me tear up to think what some parents throw away, and what kids have to go through as a result.  Pearls before swine.  I'm glad you are there for your kids, OP.  My folks divorced but my mom was there for us and we came out ok.[/quote]

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