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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work and I sometimes hate on SAHMs because I am jealous of them.  Nothing is more rewarding than caring for your children full time.  SAHM has always been my dream job - too bad it just doesn't seem to be in the cards for me.  BUT I do get annoyed when I hear SAHMs complain about how rough they have it - do they know how LUCKY they are to have the job they have?[/quote]

I've done both.  I cannot stand to hear SAHMs complain about how hard it is.  I have five children very close together in age.  There were certainly tough days, especially when my DH traveled or when the kids were sick.  But it was still about 1000x easier than working full time AND taking care of kids.  I liked working but I felt guilty all the time.  I never felt like I was spending enough time with my kids and I felt like I wasn't able to be fully focused on work.  I tend to be obsessive about keeping the house clean, and could never just let things go.  I felt like I just could never get ahead on housework and laundry.

I was home until my kids started started school, worked full-time for a few years, then left full-time work to go part-time.  I've been working about 15 hours a week for 10 years.  Four of our kids are grown.  One older teen at home.  No plans to ever return to full-time work.  Part-time is perfect. Our house just runs more smoothly with me at home.

[b]SAHMs need to realize how incredibly lucky they are[/b].  I am thankful every day that I am not working full-time.  I've been there and done that.  No desire to ever do it again.  [/quote]

No they don't, at least not any more than any of us who are lucky enough to be gainfully employed (LIKE ME) or have the option to stay home (NOT an option for me) need to realize how lucky we are. Everybody should be grateful for the good they have in their lives, which doesn't necessarily negate the need to sometimes complain and vent about what feels bad in our lives.

And why are SAHMS supposedly lucky anyway? Most women on this thread seem to think SAHMs are useless drains and would never choose that lifestyle themselves. So they are supposed to feel both maligned and lucky at the same time?

Seems like there is no way for the tay at home to win with some of you.[/quote]

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