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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Larla,

This is a perfect example of you dribbling out little bits of information as the story spins along and it does seem like whenever someone challenges your assumptions or feelings you come up with another convenient explanation or justification, although ironically it tends to lead to more questionings. For example, you now say Mary works as a waitress and you claim she had all these years to save up a nest egg. Well, waitresses don't make much money, and Mary was allowed to believe she was the inheritor of her mother's property because Thelma didn't say sorry, nope, that ain't gonna be the case, so Mary didn't save at all based on erroneous assumption. So the moral dilemma gets even worse and Thelma is even bitchier than I thought.

I'm wondering if you're making up this entire affair for the kicks or as research for potential story. I don't think there's anything more left to be said especially as if this is a true situation, I get the impression it involves a bunch of unpleasant people, deceased or alive. One way or another I wish you best of luck.

[quote=Anonymous][ote=Anonymous]If you don't understand or recognize that there is a moral dilemma over Mary's sudden precarious position due to her mother leaving the family home away from her (the same house where Mary has lived in for decades, apparently), then I'm not quite sure what there is to tell you. There's a certain stubbornness and even selfishness not to cue in on that plenty of posters on here have spelled out the challenges facing Mary and the peculiarities of Thelma's will. Like it or not, Thelma allowed Mary to become dependent and this is pulling the rug from underneath a middle aged woman with limited means or abilities. Telling Mary not to count her chicks before they hatch is not the same as being upfront that she wouldn't inherit the house, something Thelma should have done from the get-go. Your godmother / great aunt did her daughter an enormous disservice. Mary risks being homeless, becoming dependent on welfare, and no, 100,000 really isn't enough to provide Mary with stability. Half the house's proceeds will go much further for Mary. It will allow her to buy a modest condo and still have a bit of a cushion for her old age.

Mary's situation is different from Roy, who according to you already knew he wouldn't inherit the house and knew not to expect much from his mother's estate. And he is also successful with his own assets.

If the house is genuinely yours then you are legally free to do whatever you want with it. But if you have a conscience, I hope you will be a little generous to Mary (while still inheriting a substantial sum from Thelma's estate).

As it is, I say this solely based on what you have told us, and I agree with other sentiments that there's more to the story we aren't being told.

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3. As much as I don't want to leave Mary without a home, why is it the "moral" thing to split the proceeds of the house with her? Not arguing, just wondering. What's to stop Roy from saying he wants a cut too? [/quote][/quote]

Mary is not mentally or physically disabled. She's has a job as a waitress. It's not high paying but she can support herself. If Mary has been living rent-free all these years, then she would've had the opportunity to save up a nice nest egg. [/quote][/quote]

Op here.

I didn't write the part about Mary having saved up a lot of money.  And no I'm not responsible for her  assuming that her mother was gonna leave the house to her. I'm not sure what I haven't been upfront about... I gave you all the entire story in the first post and then people start asking questions which I then started answering, is that what you mean by giving out dribbles of information?

To answer any other questions that I may have left out, I don't think Roy and Mary know that my grandmother was the executor of the will, no one expected my godmother to die so soon.

No I don't think anyone ever told Mary flat out she was not going to get the house and Thelma died, but it takes a whole lot of entitlement to assume you're getting something when somebody dies. I don't expect to inherit my parents house when they die because I'm not entitled person. [/quote]

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