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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am absolutely shocked by the SAHM hating posts. "Lazy", "living off another person's dime," "insufferable"? 
My spouse and I will make decisions based on our families' needs and you will make yours. We will all work hard and do the best we can. Some of us will teach our children to treat others with kindness and respect. The haters will teach hate. 
I hope my kids don't cross paths with yours
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Do you not see the language directed towards WOHMs, not to mention at childcare providers?[/quote]

Really??????? No, I don't see it. (Not pp)[/quote]

Just from this page:
[i] the mom who palms her dc off to virtual strangers for most of their waking hours[/i][/quote]

Let's include the whole quote you just pulled that from so we aren't taking these words out of context. Don't be lazy, pp.[/quote]

Sorry, the rest talked about how bad it is to leave your kids with a person who doesn't speak English well.  You know, hardworking women providing for their families.  Really reflects well on SAHMs, that poster.[/quote]

Nope, sorry - you're twisting that post to suit your own bias.  The post was asking why so many WOH parents seem to speak glowingly of their childcare providers yet dismissively of SAH parents.  Even when the childcare provider might not speak English well (or at all), they are still seen as more desirable for their children than simply having a parent take care of them.  We're still waiting for an answer, by the way.  And that observation has nothing to do with racism, though you can certainly try and spin it that way.  [/quote]

Because earning a professional living is seen by many as a higher and better use of a parent's time than opting out of the workforce for years.[/quote]

And there it is.  So incredibly sad.  I wonder what your children would think if they read your statement as adults.  How pathetic for them to hear that you find working to be a better use of your time than taking care of them.  Oh well - different strokes.[/quote]

WOHM's conveniently ignore this statement [/quote]

I think it's pathetic that you think so little of your DC, but at least you're setting yourself up to play the martyr mom role for the rest of your life with those DC when they become adults.  You could tell them, I wasn't organized, motivated, intelligent <fill in the blank> to manage both a career and a family so I took a break/stopped working all together....all because of YOU!  Dear Susie, I'm going to volunteer in your classroom everyday to ensure you get into AAP and run you to a different after school activity every single day and sit home while you're in school all day trying to figure out how to clean our house and go grocery shopping with the 7 hours a day that I have on my hands.

My mom was a WOHM with me, but a SAHM for my younger siblings.  She always thought that was just what you were SUPPOSED to do if you could.  It was BETTER for your kids.  This is now one of my moms biggest regrets.  All of her kids turned out to be successful, happy people with families.  I tend to remember more "special" things about my childhood than my siblings.  I'm actually closer to my mom than the rest of them.  She stalled her career for so long she found it difficult both professionally and personally to get back in the field.  She feels like she could have worked and all of her kids would have been just as healthy and happy as they are now.  She could have handled being a WOHM easily.

I have absolutely no worries about my kids looking back on their childhood and feeling neglected because I have a career.  I know that it helps SAHMs feel better about their choice, but I have absolutely no guilt, but if you acknowledge this it doesn't help your martyr act.  Sorry.[/quote]

Or perhaps SAHMs who are happy with their choice aren't playing the martyr at all.  How does choosing to be at home make you a martyr?  When I hear that accusation, especially from a WOHM, it becomes crystal clear that there are some major insecurities at play.  Why else would you make such judgmental and frankly, false, accusations about another person's life choices?  Has it ever occurred to you that SAHMs could easily take on employment if they wished to, but they *choose not to*?  I'm extremely organized, motivated, and intelligent - as are my other friends who are SAHMs.        Your remarks just make you sound bitter and resentful.  If you're so delighted with your life, then you shouldn't feel the need to knock down others who wouldn't be happy working outside the home.  Right?[/quote]

Choosing to be at home would make moms who would rather work martyrs.[/quote]

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