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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am fascinated by the fact that no one on this thread is like - hey - how could we help women. How could we make it better for ourselves? What if instead of warring we all agreed we want the best for our kids and it would be great if we could have flexible jobs that allowed for great family balance and a good social safety net. No - were like - you suck because you care about stupid college and I am at peace. Truly why don’t we work toward a more equitable future instead of this endless loop [/quote]
I'm a pp who suggested long mat leaves, but a sahm shut that down quickly. How dare she have to pay for someone elses mat leave! Even though it benefits every parent! I'm also pro pat leave. [/quote]

Well it is not really the government's job to pay for long maternity leaves, IMO.  I don't want to go to the tax levels that countries who provide this tax people.  
However, they should put a plan into place that ensures you can "come back and get your job back/similar job back" after X months.  But no (I'm DP) don't think we need to fund that.  If you want to take 6 months off of a 12 months off, then you plan for that and save for that before you have a kid.  Or you take part of it without pay.  
In reality, companies should be more flexible in allowing parents to work PT after maternity leave (and for Dads).  But this should be something offered to any employee after a "life event"---so someone who needs to do the same for an elderly parent has choices as well.

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So you are the person who doesn't want to support other parents in mat leave? Got it. Way to make it harder for all women, but you save a few pennies on your taxes, yay![/quote]

Not that pp. most Americans would not want to pay 50+% tax. I wouldn’t and I’m a sahm. I got 12 weeks maternity leave and I took an additional 4 weeks unpaid. I would not expect a year paid, especially when I had only worked at that company for less than 2 years. Having a job protected is another possibility but that company probably needs to hire someone to cover that year and it isn’t fair to take that job from the new person either.[/quote]
Good lord, where do you get your facts from? You clearly don't understand how the system works. When someone goes on mat leave, they hire a contract person for the duration. If the person on leave decides to come back, the contract ends as it should (or if they are really great, they are moved elsewhere in the company). If they choose to quit and stay home, the contract person gets a FT job. No one is "taking the job away". [/quote]

When I went on maternity leave, they did not get a replacement. My coworkers absorbed my work until I came back.

My husband has someone who just left on maternity and they also did not hire someone new. [/quote]
Sounds like poor planning and management on both your company's part. They are being cheap, instead of having to pay someone else they are loading work onto poor coworkers. If that is your policy, no wonder you wouldn't support 12-18m leave. IF they were better managed it would be much less of a problem. [/quote]

This is pretty standard in the govt.  [/quote]

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