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[quote]Or perhaps SAHMs who are happy with their choice aren't playing the martyr at all.  How does choosing to be at home make you a martyr?  When I hear that accusation, especially from a WOHM, it becomes crystal clear that there are some major insecurities at play.  Why else would you make such judgmental and frankly, false, accusations about another person's life choices?  Has it ever occurred to you that SAHMs could easily take on employment if they wished to, but they *choose not to*?  I'm extremely organized, motivated, and intelligent - as are my other friends who are SAHMs.        Your remarks just make you sound bitter and resentful.  If you're so delighted with your life, then you shouldn't feel the need to knock down others who wouldn't be happy working outside the home.  Right?[/quote]

I WOH b/c I like working - but I also know that I'm 50% of the HH income!

I have three degrees and use the skills from all three in my current role.

I am the mother of a daughter and son who are still young - too young to really understand the dynamics of a two-income HH.  Still, I simply can't imagine fooling them into thinking that the odds of one or both staying home with their children are great.

The odds are slim. Chances are both of my kids will have to work - just as my husband and I do.

Are my kids inconvenienced from time to time? 
hell yes!  
There are days when we rush home only to scoop them up and out to an activity.  Down time on those days doesn't exist.

But that's life.  Life is about handling obstacles thrown our way.

A parent staying home may create a stable environment, but that's a temporary bubble.  Life's not a bubble.  It can get ugly,in fact,  but developing resilience and embracing flexibility are keys to leading a happy life.

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I'm not sure what the point of your post is.  You enjoy WOH.  That's great.  SAHMs also enjoy what they do.  Why does it have to be a competition?  Resilience and flexibility can be developed in either situation.  [/quote]

When are kids inconvenienced with a SAHP?

never

Kid's sick?  There's a parent to either stay home with him/her to to pick him/her up immediately.

snow day?  Parent's home.
no shuffling around necessary

playdates when they're younger?  during the week b/c a parent is home
no need to schedule them just on weekends

afterschool activities?  
sure!  b/c the SAHP is home

Kids are not inconvenienced at all.  neither is the working parent for that matter

just speaking the truth
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So are you saying it's [i]better[/i] for kids to be inconvenienced, because somehow that's the only path for them to learn resilience?  Life is long... plenty of time for that.  Again: this is not a competition.[/quote]

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