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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, thanks for posting this!
My son is also a rising 1st grader in a school that is 70% Latino, 70% farms. [b]The school also has about 25% proficiency in both English and math. 
It's interesting that a lot of friends have been giving me grief for my decision to send him there.[/b] I don't know why they take it so close to heart.

So far the only problem was arranging playdates- my kid didn't become close friends with anyone who seems easy to arrange a Playdate with, except for one kid. Latinos at our school don't seem to be up for play dates that much and tend to stick together.

What worries me is the level of academic instruction. However, my child was not top of the class in K. He got to attend summer school with an enrichment component just by the virtue of attending a title 1 school, and that gave him a boost, plus we try to discuss what they learn and I try to casually supplement. 
I have compared what he knows to what his friends from higher ranked schools know, and so far he is not behind, rather, it is the opposite.
The only thing that bothers me is that if we need to change schools it will be harder on my kid once he is past 2-3 grade. 
I don't know what to ask you :) I was just happy to read a post from someone in similar shoes.[/quote]

I'm not your friend, and I completely understand why your real friends are checking you.  You're deliberately sending your child to a sh*tty school!  Why did you have him if you weren't going to do right by him?  You suck as a parent.[/quote]

OP here. PP, mind your own business. Where the other PP chooses to send her kid to school has zero bearing on your life.

As to the other PP, vis a vis play dates, I would say that you should reach out to your child's teacher and see what he or she thinks is the best way to approach the situation. Another thing I've noticed, honestly, is that DD gets a ton of social interaction during the school day and in aftercare. Evenings and weekends are family time for us, and I know that a lot of families feel the same. For example, DD's best friend's family basically reserves Sunday as church and grandma day, and on Saturdays, they have extracurricular activities that make scheduling playdates difficult. This may be what is going on in your son's situation, but I think it also helps to make these things accessible to everyone. We do park playdates, and have done all summer. Sometimes we go closer to where they live (they are OOB) and sometimes they come down closer to us.

I have also noticed that the enrichment is helpful. Academically, my concern is more for next year and the year after than this year. Kindergarten was for socialization, and first grade seems to be when things shift from "fun" to "school." I hope your son's trajectory maintains and that you are able to negotiate these things with grace.[/quote]

OP, just wanted to let you know how much I like and appreciate your answers even to the most controversial and downright rude remarks. 
I am sure your daughter will be fine in pretty much any setting as you seem to be very hands on and aware of how to react, if I may.

Play dates: my son has been begging me to invite this one boy, we already chatted with parents a number of times, but they keep turning down play dates unless it at the school playground after school. I usually suggest (have done so 3 times), they choose a day that doesn't work for me, I suggest a range of dates instead and they never get back to me. They invited my son for their son's birthday party at a park, but the play date thing is just going nowhere.
Unfortunately my son hasn't asked about play dates with anyone else. 
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