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Why are you being so defensive? I'm asking an honest question. You sound like a 13 year old, " I can do what I want! Whaaa! Whaaa!"

Of course you can do what you want. I presume you're a grown woman! [b]I'm just confused and saddened that you're giving up so much so much. I just want an honest response about why you chose this path among so many other viable alternatives[/b].[/quote]

People have given you lots of honest reasons.  You seem to look at spending some time at home as all on the "giving up" side.  I looked at my years at home as what I gained was worth a lot more to me than what I gave up.  I actually enjoyed being the one caring for my babies and toddlers.  I enjoyed being able to create a more relaxed life with DH since we weren't having to balance the demands of two jobs plus childcare and house responsibilities.  Sure, I gave up income but a lot of that would have gone to childcare, house cleaner, etc. if I hadn't taken time off (I didn't have the luxury of a live-in grandma to do childcare.  My mom is quite busy with her own career that she started after being a SAHM for 15 yrs).

Also, not all, and I guess not most SAHMs plan to be at-home forever.  The norm among my friends has been to take 2-5 yrs off.  I do have a few friends who are long-term SAHMs.  They have either 1) 4+ kids with lots of activities   2) children with special needs  3) caring for a sick parent or 4) made a ton of money before having kids and are now highly involved in community service.   Others may look to outsiders like SAHMs but they actually are working but managed to find jobs that are school hours and/or WAH.  Try not to feel bad about that "SAHM" you see at the grocery store -- you have NO idea what her story is.[/quote]

+1,000
Couldn't agree more.  [/quote]

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