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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hear, hear, OP. I am the daughter of an Indian immigrant mother (naturalized US citizen) who came to America in the 1960s to study organic chemistry. She was proud to work, even when she had difficulty finding jobs in her field because she was "overqualified." My dad is also Indian American and a proud feminist. I would never give up the opportunity to study and "develop my mind" and contribute to my family through challenging work, as you put it so well. When a country and people become rich, they forget what previous generations fought so hard for. I agree American women have the choice to stay home, and that choice is a good thing, but it does disappoint me greatly that so many well educated women would choose it. [b]You may choose, but I judge your choice and find it lame[/b].[/quote]

Which is very telling, isn't it?  Sorry your life is so unhappy you feel the need to judge others - who actually ARE happy.   :lol: [/quote]

ditto this. 
Happy people don't judge others.  Period. [/quote]

OP here.

This is silly. We just think it is a shame to not take advantage of so many opportunities available to women in this country. Motherhood is amazing and life changing but honestly, children really really need you to be there the first 12 years of their life. Once they become teenagers they do not need a parent hovering over their every move. Women need to develop a sense of identity aside from being a mom and a purpose besides being a mother. What will you do once your kid goes off to college? Once the hard work of 4 am feedings, cleaning poop and giving baths are over, a woman needs to find other means to occupy her time.

Why would you not want to develop your mind, learn new things, grow as an individual and as a professional? Don't you want to step outside your house in the suburbs and find things to talk about other than how there's a great deal on Jack Rogers at Nordstroms or how your 6 year old needs glasses?

You're in the United States of America. You can be more than just a housewife. Don't you want to show your daughter or son that you, as a woman, can take an active role in your community?

I don't stay up at night worried for what you're missing out on but sometimes, as I am walking down the aisle at whole foods and see a woman who is clearly a SAHM, these thoughts cross my mind. 
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And it's a shame that you can't get your head out of your ass long enough to understand that all people are not you and all people do not want to be you.

It's also a shame that you're so judgmental about the choices other people make and in such a blanket statement type of way.  'All SAHMs are poop cleaners, with no intellectual use, that only go shopping and don't contribute to society'. 'I don't get it'... just my sahm/wohm debate musings, cue fake smile.

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Why are you being so defensive? I'm asking an honest question. You sound like a 13 year old, " I can do what I want! Whaaa! Whaaa!"

Of course you can do what you want. I presume you're a grown woman! I'm just confused and saddened that you're giving up so much so much. I just want an honest response about why you chose this path among so many other viable alternatives.[/quote]

Not the PP, but you are clearly trolling and [i]hoping[/i] for people to get defensive.  You're enjoying it.  Suffice it to say, your choices are not at all what my choices would be.  Your life isn't something I envy or would want to emulate.  The difference is, I didn't need to start a moronic post about the subject because I was bored silly... like you clearly are.[/quote]

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