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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]16:00, my plan is to continue working. There's no way we can afford child care on one salary.[/quote]

You wouldn't need childcare of one of you was a SAHP.  :roll: [/quote]

We would have our child enrolled in preschool part time when he/she turns 2. Plus don't forget about other expenses such as diapers, formula (in case I can't breastfeed), clothes, doctor bills. We need two incomes to afford all of that plus our other bills.[/quote]

Most of the women responding to you are speaking from the position of knowing exactly how much all that costs - since unlike you, we have actually experienced all of these things.

My original point stands. You are sitting here, a couple years into a marriage, telling us that you will always be delighted to give blowjobs, cook, and clean, that you will continue to do those things even when you are working full time and raising a child. I know dozens of people who are married with children, and every single one of us struggled in the early years with balance. I do not know one couple who was able to maintain their pre-child relationships and divisions of labor.

You think you have all the answers, but what you are refusing to hear is that it does not always work out the way you plan. If your husband left his first wife because she was not a good wife, all that is telling us is that your husband's chosen coping skill for a shitty relationship is to cheat. If you think that it will be different with you, I would be very interested to hear why. "Because I won't make those mistakes" is not an acceptable answer.[/quote]

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