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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think you would be happy with your MIL as childcare provider the way you talk about her.  And it would only make your relationship more tense.  Stop telling her how she should live or spend her money. You and you're DH will need to consider your options if/when the times comes when either MIL/FIL can no longer care or live by themselves. You cannot predict the kind of care or length of care they will need, or what stage you'll be in your own life at that time to decide how you will handle it.  That decision should be completely separate from your judgments on how they lived their life or spent there money. Even if it's frustrating that in your judgement they didn't plan better, the decision you will make re: elder care should not be thought of as punishment for those choices.  Just tell your MIL when she makes comments like that that you do not know how you to what extent you will be able to support them at that stage in their life and please make long term care and retirement plans outside of your financial or social support (what if one or both of you guys died first)? Lots of people care for parents who didn't care for them or who were even abusive.  You are not alone.[/quote]

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