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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL isn't so bad, it is actually my FIL who is the problem.  
DH is from another country, I do not speak his native language fluently but well enough, and our children our fluent.  My FIL has never ever liked me, I usually bit my tongue and be the bigger person, especially since we don't see them very often as they live so far away, but now that we have children I can get all mamma bear if I think he is out of line with my kids.  He is not a very good father, 2 of his 4 kids HATE him, 2 moved to America to be away from him, and the other 2 are just so young (from his second wife) that I suspect once they are graduated and have jobs will follow and move too.

He has said, to my face, in front of all my inlaws, that I am a terrible mother, that Americans suck, that Americans have no manners or breeding, that America is a terrible country, that my children have no manners, that my husband could have done much better, etc.  My SILs have always stood up for me, and usually my FILs wife has too.

He has said behind my bad, but in front of my children who understand his language and reported back to me (DD is in a bit of a tattletale phase, I do not ask her to report back):that I am a bitch, that I am a horrible person, that I have the worse parenting methods he has ever seen, that I should spank and hit my kids to get them to behave, that I am fat, that I am not pretty like the women in his native country, etc

Sometimes he will completely ignore me when greeting people.  Once we were celebrating with friends of his and there brought a bottle of champagne,  he got on,y enough glasses out and poured some for everyone but me (despite having enough flutes). It was very uncomfortable, as the other people noticed and asked where was another glass.  He said I wasn't worthy and didn't deserve to toast with them.  The husband of one of the friends quickly gave me his and said to stop being ridiculous to him, but those admonishments have no effect on his behavior,

I don't know why he hates me so much.  I have been with his son for 20 years.  I have given him his only grandchildren.  His daughter met her own husband (who is absolutely wonderful to me) through ME, he was one of my BFFs, and my FIL just adores him.  His own parents when they were alive really liked me and I liked them and we had a great relationship.  But my FIL just has never, ever liked me, and is so incredibly rude to me all the time.  So it isn't just MILs.[/quote]

Why do you see this man? He would be on permanent time out in my life.[/quote]

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