Reply to Do you ever wish your DH made more money?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Do you ever wish your DH made more money?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]1970 New England baby here, raised by parents who came of age in the very early 1960s, before the women's movement took hold.  When I was growing up, moms had careers, but most of them took time off to raise kids or launched a professional career once the kids got a bit older.  Moms were always the default parents, doing all the household shopping, cooking, driving, homework help, etc.  Dads made the money and sometimes did yard work.

I get that I need to be able to support myself in the manner I want to live, and I did for many years.  However, I have never managed to shake off the traditional values and expectations that I picked up from the examples I grew up with.  I currently work part time and earn a low six-figure salary, but there is no doubt that I compromised my long-term earning potential by taking low-stress, low-profile work.

Did I screen for earning potential during my dating years?  Yes, but mostly subconsciously.  Professional success and earning power typically flow from the smart alpha male type I was drawn to when looking for a life partner.  I would honestly have a hard time if DH didn't earn at least as much as I earned when I was full time, and enough to enable me to work part time while my kids are young.

On the other hand, in my younger years, I dated a couple of creative/adventurous/sensitive types.  I sometimes wish DH had more appetite for the kind of aimless togetherness I enjoyed with those guys, but he is much too achievement-oriented for that.  So every choice does come with a price.  
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics