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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My guess is that most of the people posting here who believe the kid and his mom are being selfish have no conception of how selfish it is to want someone else to put their life on hold for their "big day" or how hypocritical it is to say they're prioritizing "supporting the family" by forcing a family member to forgo something they've worked quite hard for.

If "supporting the family" is so important, how about we all grow up and support the boy going to his sporting event, which (a) understandably means more to him than his aunts wedding considering the amount of time he's likely put into it, and (b) shouldn't ultimately change how his aunt feels about her wedding day one bit.

It's a good practice to at least analyze the size of the benefit to you against the size of the sacrifice you're making someone else make.[/quote]

This is absurd. OF COURSE people put their lives on hold for someone's big day. They miss all sorts of routine or even special life things. They buy flights. They make 4 hour drives. They wedge their feet into uncomfy shoes. They see that ex-wife they hate. It's a wedding, not a routine dinner party. The idea that a wedding is not a very special family event (versus an event just for the couple) is a notion that I don't relate to at all. I think it's selfish to say who cares who is there as long as me and my fiancé are is selfish. Unselfish is to care that your siblings and nieces and nephews are present (like Op did) and making them part of the ceremony. I presume this why Op has been successful in having a close and loving family. An attitude of hey I don't needs my nieces and nephews is not consistent with the nice family it sounds like they have.

Op, this is a sucky hiccup. Don't let it interfere with what sounds like a great family. It sounds like you aren't though. [/quote]

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