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[quote=Anonymous]Haven't followed all of this but thought I would add something. When I got married--later like you I would have been horrified if a nephew didn't attend. I am very close to my nephews and would have been upset. Thankfully they were too young to be in anything so competitive that it would have mattered. Now years later, I have different perspective and believe it not you may have different perspective in years with your own kids. If this is a sport where it is a big event (who cares boy or girl) then I would say they should go to that game and miss the wedding. Why? You have said you live far away because if in same town the child could have gone to the sporting event and then made part of the festivities--rehearsal dinner or reception but not the wedding or wedding and not the reception. This child is sort of boxed in because they have to fly across the country so this is a big production during the school year. Your sister may love you to pieces but she is being a good mom. She knows she is having one of her kids there to represent the family and her other child needs to be where he sports commitment is. I totally get. The people who say to bag probably don't have the understand of competitive sports--frankly though this could be a what if child was in a theatre production so the reality is if a child has a commitment to something and is learning follow through. It could be argued that if this family was the most important thing,you could choose to have a wedding in their town. You didn't because it didn't work for you..totally understand that but please understand that when you are flying people in, logistics can get in the way. Maybe find a way to celebrate with him this summer. Please do not let the stress of a wedding cloud your mind. This is how family wars start and it is not worth it.[/quote]

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