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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. First off, I want to apologize for throwing out the adjective "lunatic" at the beginning of this thread. I didn't want to insult anybody.

I just want to say that I have learned from my own experience. XH had demanded that I SAH with our kids. Mostly so that he wouldn't have to do anything around the house. I refused and kept working. I don't earn much but the work boosts my self-esteem.

And a few years out lo and behold, he decided that life would be better with another women 15 years my junior. Since he was also a big spender, there wasn't much by way of assets to be split. So I was really glad about my decision, even if I didn't get any alimony (which educated women don't get nowadays anyway).

The question works both ways: what if you want to leave him? Why would you get trapped in a situation where you have to rationalize his fault/cheating etc (see parallel thread) and cannot afford to get out?[/quote]

If you are a long-term SAHM, who has given up the prime growth, development, and earning years of a potentially lucrative career to keep house and raise the kids while your spouse has developed, blossomed, and become a very high-earner because he did not have to worry about the children or the home --you will indeed be entitled to a generous division of assets, as well as generous alimony and child support, as you should be.  Essentially your sacrifice has helped your spouse, in partnership with you, build a thriving livelihood, and you deserve a good deal of that "business".  Most wealthy, but not Google wealthy, DHs recognize that they will have to pay up big (and cannot afford to do so without taking a big hit from their wealth), so they settle for an affair and stay with the SAHM.[/quote]

Why is working long hours and being away from your family not also regarded as a sacrifice?

Honestly, why bother working hard when it's just going to be held against you by some "family lawyer"? [/quote]

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