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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Then get a divorce.  Why is this difficult?  Only scumbags cheat.[/quote]

There is the power disparity. Only scumbags cheat, but it's barely even objectionable to force your spouse to be sexless. [/quote]

From this thread you can see that many do think that forcing your spouse to be sexless is objectionable. It is selfish, disrespectful and a sign of someone not committed to the marriage. But that doesn't make cheating any better. [/quote]

Lots do, you're right. But there are also some who seem to think that sex comes last. If everything isn't just right in the marriage, some spouses seem to feel perfectly justified in checking out of the sex life. The other spouse can just masturbate, right? [/quote]

If my spouse is checked out in[b] every other area[/b] of our marriage, there shouldn't be an expectation that I'm checked in for sex.[/quote]

Nice straw man. What if your spouse is doing well in lots of areas but you're pissed off about a couple. What's the status on sex in that situation? He's frozen out until you get compliance?[/quote]

This is simple.  There are things he's unhappy about, there are things I'm unhappy about.  If he wants me to "throw him a bone" he'd better be willing to throw me a bone as well.  I'm not sure why this is so difficult to understand.[/quote]

I don't subscribe to the all or none, aka domino effect to issues within my marriage.  We prefer to handle each issue individually, like adults. I think it's silly to withhold sex because you are unhappy about dishes in the sink.  Tit for tat doesn't work for us.  [/quote]

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