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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marrying someone with infertility issues is signing up for an expensive and stressful battle. Its a different thing if it happens but walking in knowing and on top of that if wife doesn't want children then you can imagine how difficult she would make his life with infertility process and afterwards with raising those kids. They aren't not married, better be honest and find partners who both want it. [/quote]

OP didn't say she has fertility issues.  She was shyte testing him.  He didn't tell her what she wanted to hear.

OP hasn't even stated that she actually wants to have children.  Or not.  Biological or otherwise.

[b]Further, she's trying to demonize him for honestly communicating with her in response to her question.[/b]

OP, you should have asked him the real question you had in mind--would he want to stay with you if you decided you wanted to not have children?

That's the real issue hear since OP does not say she is infertile.

OP knows he wants children, she isn't sure about that.  Rather than just being honest with him that she isn't sure they are compatible because she isn't sure she wants children with him (perfectly fine of she wants to be child free by the way), she frames it so she can blame him for the end of the relationship rather than being truthful about her feelings on having children.

He is not bad or evil because he has different preferences than you do OP.  Youre just incompatible--he is being honest with you, you not so much with him.[/quote]

"I'm considering moving on" is demonizing him? Wow, you really do believe in that Nick Fuentes "your body, mu choice" thing, don't you? [/quote]

This is demonizing behavior on your part.  Thanks for proving the point so easily [/quote]

What did OP write that you consider "demonizing him"? You accused her of it -- where is it?[/quote]

OP doesn't want to have children with her bf or at least is unsure if she will ever want to.

Instead of just honestly telling him that, and splitting up due to basic incompatibility, she asks a.twisted hypothetical and [b]demonizes him[/b] for his honest answer to make him the reason for the break up and then comes here to soother her ego by listening to many of the commenters unfairly trash him.

Yes that is exactly "demonizing."[/quote]

Deomonizing by saying "While I recognize his right to pursue bio children, I feel uncomfortable with someone that would say something like this to me and I'm leaning towards moving on."

That's the demonizing? Seriously?[/quote]

Yes.  She's blaming him for her discomfort as if he made her uncomfortable.  He didn't. The real issue is she doesn't want to have children with him.sje needs to stick to the real issue rather than trying to obscure it   so do you.[/quote]

Wow. Okay, champ. Let's just let that sit there in all its proportionate glory.[/quote]

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