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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We recently acquired a vacation home. We are not renting it out. We let BIL use it once. Now he wants to go again.

Do you let your family use your home whenever they want?

We won’t be there and not use it for at least another month.[/quote]

We let trusted close family and friends use the house if our immediate family isn’t using it. My sister and her family/friends left the place trashed and with weird damage once so they’re not allowed over unless it’s an extended family retreat.

We usually ask for $525/week to cover utilities and property taxes/wear and tear (regardless if it’s peak or non peak season). Yes our house is empty a lot of the time and walking distance to the beach - no you can not just stay there for free indefinitely. [/quote]

This is how we approach it.  Close family and friends can stay, but can lose the privilege if they aren't considerate or respectful.  Thus far, it hasn't been an issue.  Have never had to ask, people always offer the cleaning fee.  People also always feel very bad about any damage they do (which has been minimal) and offer to pay to repair it.  Depending on what it is, we sometimes take them up on it.  [/quote]

Listen to yourself, would you?  "Close family and friends can stay, but can lose the privilege if they aren't considerate or respectful."  Who do you think you are, the Queen of England?  I'm sure glad you're not my "close family."  You are insufferable.[/quote]

WTF? Why do you think you are entitled to use other people’s properties how you please! Of course the owners can decide not to let you use it again! You are such a pig in your attitude![/quote]

Why are you obsessed with the word "entitled" asking for something is not an entitlement. Using it without permission is. Because it was assumed you wouldn't mind.[/quote]

Whoa crazy pants using something without permission isn’t simply entitlement it’s theft, breaking and entering and trespassing!

Entitlement is inviting yourself or asking for something that you believe the other person should or will provide for you. It infers you deserve this and the inviting yourself or ask is simply correcting the owners lapse in not offering it again. Multiple posters are using the words entitled and moochers because they apply here. [/quote]

Entitlement is not simply asking for something. If they truly felt entitled they would demand or just take. [/quote]

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