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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a weird idea of no contact. Stop contacting them if you want to be no contact.[/quote]

The interactions described was before NC.   - OP[/quote]

But you want to contact them again to explain no contact. Leave them alone. And also they gave you the TL, DR treatment because 5 pages (was it front and back?) might have been too much.[/quote]

Because I love them, and their time on earth is getting shorter and shorter, and it makes me sad, but yes, you are correct.  - OP

It's just not that easy to let go[/quote]

It sounds like you want to punish them. Not like you're trying to protect yourself.

Do you spend a lot of time consuming social media/tiktok posts about going no contact? Have you romanticized it? Do you have some script in your head for what it looks like?[/quote]

THIS! Gray rock should be to protect yourself and you just want to punish your parents. You want them to know what they did was wrong, which is actually hurting you even further. [/quote]

OPs parents are gray rocking OP. And OP is spiraling like many people who are subjected to gray rock do.

OP will not and cannot gray rock her parents, because that is not satisfying to her, and actually I suspect would be an outcome her parents would welcome, given that they are clearly doing the same to her. [/quote]

+1  They realize she is a narcissist and don't want to cut her off because she is their child so they gray rock her. My parents were not my friends but they did their best. [/quote]

Good for you, but not everyone's parents "did their best" and some of us have the capacity to recognize that. I always find the "did your best" an excuse and unwillingness to take accountability. If someone tells you why (in a 5-page letter no less), you cannot possibly say "I have no idea" and that's your best. [/quote]

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