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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not sure if this is helpful but based on my friend's experience with an open adoption (as the adoptive mother), I would recommend that.

My friend's older daughter's bio mom was a single mother of two and got pregnant again from a one-night stand.  The bio mom's mother encouraged the bio mom to consider adoption since the father's identity could not be determined until birth and child support was realistically unlikely.

My friend was thrilled to be chosen to parent her daughter and, although she lives several states away, she does keep the bio family in the loop.  She has told me that the bio family has pretty much faded out over the years and now she just sends them updates in the mail.

My read is that the bio family has their own problems and they are satisfied that their little girl is loved.  And the adoptee is free to get in touch with them based on her own emotional needs.

My friend's younger child, a son, is from a closed adoption. I have never dared to ask if he is o.k. with that, since that's so personal.  However, as others have said above, DNA makes it unlikely that closed adoptions are going to stay closed.  Even DNA hits on distant cousins can reveal the parents.

I think it's possible that an open adoption might be the least heartbreaking route if adoption is the decision.

It was nice of you, OP, to show some female solidarity with your son's gf.

Best wishes to your family.[/quote]

I think the lovely thing in this is that definitely adoption can make loving families

Life is so difficult, but death is worse

When life makes a stand and people move along with it, things can become so beautiful when you least expect it

In March I hope to see what has happened[/quote]

No death involved. This girl knowingly waited.

No way I would want my son to marry an idiot.

32 weeks???

DNA test for sure.

Marry her hell no.[/quote]

This is a troll post.

“This girl knowingly waited” … how do you know that?

Also, you don’t need a DNA test. That’s for ancestry dot com

Paternity tests are different

Y’all Russians suck at what you do[/quote]

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