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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, just smile and say nothing. Don’t say a word. The silence will make the person realize it was a rude comment. Likely a true comment, but still inappropriate. Sort of like commenting on weight loss or weight gain. True, but inappropriate. [/quote]

People who get called out on the truth like to fall back on vague claims that something is "rude" or "inappropriate." It's not. It's just the truth. [/quote]
The truth is they worked really hard in a number of areas and also had the benefit of legacy. Identifying legacy singularly comes off as sour grapes and should be treated as such. People aren’t robots, and having privilege doesn’t mean people have to deal with comments designed to hurt. In your internet world it might be “truth” but in the real world, it’s just being a dick. It’s an important lesson to learn that people can and will be offended by these comments so don’t be surprised.[/quote]

NP: why is it being a dick when it’s only said by someone outside the immediate family? If mom said: they do count legacy so this is great and should help - is she a dick?[/quote]

Exactly. The PP and other legacy parents are fine with the discussion of the reality of legacy admissions being kept within the family. But when people outside the family, particularly people who don’t have access to the same admissions preferences, state the same thing, they rush to label that rude or “being a jerk.” What those legacy parents are actually doing is scrabbling to protect an unearned advantage for their kids by trying to suppress any discussion of that advantage.

If you have an advantage that most people do not have, and your immediate response is to try to suppress any public discussion of that advantage, all you are doing is trying to protect that advantage going forward for you and your kids. It is rank selfishness, nothing more. [/quote]

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