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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People don't think about you nearly as much as you seem to think they do, OP. What an odd, unrelatable post. What on EARTH are you prattling on about?[/quote]
Lol, found one. [/quote]

Exactly. They're gonna be ALL up in this thread with their particular brand of insult gaslighting[/quote]

Laughing because this was a really prescient post early in the thread.

All the Type As are freaking out in this thread. I wonder if they didn't realize we knew what was up?[/quote]

They think they are always one upping us and never realize we are onto them.[/quote]

No one cares about one upping. It is literally just engaging in conversation and providing insight. Everyone isn't going to say to you all of the time "you are so right!" or "I am so sorry to hear that!" or "wow, you do everything right all of the time!" and everyone isn't just going to walk around like toddlers and exclaim "I like romance movies", "I like pizza", just making declarations, without a back a forth. [/quote]

I am beginning to think you may be on the spectrum. I don't say that as a burn -- if you are, that's fine, and would explain why you didn't understand what multiple people here are saying.

No one has suggested they want anyone to constantly validate them and say they are right. In fact, that sounds very annoying.

But yes, one upping is a thing. And guess what, most people do it occasionally, without meaning to. Sometimes people don't listen well, are caught up in their own business and aren't connecting, or misread a conversation.

But some people one up in every single conversation, in response to everything you might say. Some people treat conversation as an opportunity to demonstrate their superiority on every single subject. I've known people like this. It's very obnoxious and is not "back and forth." It's a rhetorical tool to turn attention and praise back on themselves at every turn. If this is you, people will absolutely grow weary of it and start avoiding you, not because you don't validate them constantly, but because they are tired of you never listening to them, never trying to empathize or even understand, never being able to sustain focus on anyone but yourself for more than ten seconds.[/quote]
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Getting overly annoyed by perceived one-upping during a back and forth conversation is YOUR thing. Move on and be normal when people share things or stories with you. BFD.

You sound like a Queen Bee. You can’t handle it when anyone tells you some of their life story. [/quote]

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