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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The basic problem is that a lot of women maybe most nowadays seem to think they should magically have access to their choice of what they feel is a desirable man.  But there aren't enough to go around.  It's supply and demand.  If you're not getting the kind of man you want, maybe you yourself don't bring enough to the relationship table.  After all, everyone complaining here CANT be all that.  It's just statistics.[/quote]

The thing is a lot of women are perfectly fine with the idea that they either get the type of man that they want or none at all. [/quote]

And men who can’t get the type of American woman they want will become a passport bro and find a wife from another country. [/quote]

+1. And everyone is happy. Not sure why some people keep insisting that people have to settle. Nothing wrong with being single, and plenty of women are happy single.[/quote]
It means they settled for being single.  That's their compromise. That doesn't mean they are happy being single.  Their settling was with the insistence that they are worthy of an imaginary prince charming rather than a real live person.  Mentally unwell people prefer delusions to reality as it gives them a perception of control.

We all have to settle in most aspects of our lives because having everything is not possible.  If you want a monogamous long term relationship, you have to actually commit at some point to a single real life other person and try to make it work.

You can't have that and also have some other person as your committed monogamous partner   You can't paste together good characteristics of multiple different real people into an imaginary person who doesn't exist.

Everyone has to "settle" for either accepting reality or living in delusion.[/quote]

It means that these women are happier single with one child than being partnered. Yes they didn’t find a man within their fertility window who would make them happier than being single. It’s not their fault or a flaw. Some people find the one later in life; others never. And that’s ok.

Women actually had and grew children on their own since humanity existed. Men often died in wars, out of wedlock births rates were higher than now due to lack of birth control etc.

[/quote] Jenny Garp is not such a great role model for women though.[/quote]

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