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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do women beat up on each other for choices like this? Men don't sit around berating one another for having children at 32 versus 46 so why do women?
Women sometimes have children late for many reasons, and oftentimes it can not be helped. Leave it be and just try to be supportive for one another rather than shooting older women down for these very personal choices. [/quote]

It isn't a personal choice though, not if the mother really looks at all the ways having a child later in life will affect that child. [b]Late 30's is one thing, but late 40's is very inconsiderate to your unborn child.[/b] [/quote]

Perhaps it carries a greater risk that your child will have to take care of an older parent earlier in life than she or he expected and it may interfere with her or his ability to devote as much time to their own children. We got that. BUT - think of the advantages also. Older parents tend to be wealthier. An older parent can afford better schools and universities, have more in savings, can provide for a greater inheritance to you,  bestow greater wisdom and experience on you. And grandchildren get to see what compassion and caring are all about when they can see their parents helping their aging grandparents. It's the best way for them to learn why and how we care for our elders in the community.

As for the argument of dying and leaving young children alone in life, when you die is based mostly on genetics and somewhat on healthy lifestyle choices.

I thought it very telling also that you said, "It isn't a personal choice though, not if the MOTHER really looks at all the ways having a child later in life will affect her child." Why is your criticism of only older mothers? What about older fathers? This just seems to me to be another excuse for women to bash women. 
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[b]I would much rather have my mother around for more of my life than a greater inheritance, to me that is worth so much more.[/b] Also, you say a benefit to having older parents is they can afford better education. That may be the case, but when I was working a full time job all through college I can tell you that there was a much higher incentive for me to do well than the kids whose mommy's and daddy's were paying for everything. I graduated with honors from a state school and now have a very successful career. I may not have been able to afford private schools, but the work ethic I learned having to support myself through college is so much more valuable. [/quote]

And similarly, most children born to older parents would much rather be born rather than not. To them, their life is still worth living despite having older aging parents and additional responsibilities.

And just because you had greater incentive to do well in your academics doesn't mean most students with paid-for college educations do poorly. My parents paid for my sister's education and she, too, graduated from a prestigious school and is now a physician. I worked and used part of my earnings to pay for my tuition but most of it was paid for by my parents also. I have a graduate degree. We both have strong work ethics. It just doesn't prove anything. You are grasping at straws here and maybe have some preconceived and very traditional ideas on marriage and children. That's fine but not fair to continually criticize others who hold a different view.[/quote]

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