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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend told me my first dh was cheating on me. She was privy to the information because my ex used her and her dh as his alibi. We were all friends. I was SO GRATEFUL to this woman for having the balls to call me and tell me something I had actually suspected. I was lied to and gaslit by my ex. My df did me a huge favor. Decades later I am still glad she told me. She said she did not want to be complicit in the lie.[/quote] But she was your friend. She told you out of concern for you, not for her own revenge or need to make things like pain equal. Their marriage was blown up, so in her mind, yours should too *because the sectet*. The secret is over already. [/quote] You don’t know that. Most of us that caught our friends husband cheating, and told them we’re just so glad to get that **** out of our lives.[/quote] And many women stay. It doesn’t make them weak or less. It makes them Different than you. [/quote] Doesn’t matter either way the reality is just cause a friend tells you about the affair doesn’t mean it’s cause they’re concerned for you just like it doesn’t matter whyOP told the spouse about the affair. Your assumptions are not reality. Your maladaptive ways of looking at things are concerning, and I will check with a doctor on those.[/quote] Do you always gaslight people with differing opinions than yours l? and shut them down with weird medical Advice instead of entering any kind of meaningful discussion that matter you incorrect? If you do, maybe that’s is something “you should check with a doctor on those” about. I really suspect most of you screaming that you would leave, would actually not once you see the financial and custody implications of doing so. [/quote] Some of us either have own our money and/or would rather have less money than staying with someone who would cheat on us. You do you, but just because you'd rather stick your head in the sand doesn't mean everyone else would. I think you're deluding yourself about what it would actually mean if your husband were currently cheating on you. He's literally coming home to kiss you with lips that were just on someone else. If that doesn't bother you, then ok I guess. You're fine with him spending his time, money, and energy on someone else. How sad.[/quote]
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