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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you want to be a trad wife, we get it. This man is not for you.  [/quote]

Actually, not. I want to have a partner who is truly giving and generous. And who would support me in difficult times. I make half a million and was contributing higher share towards joint expenses in marriage and a relationship I had post divorce. But being ok when a woman to take out her  wallet in restaurants is demeaning to me. I don’t want to be that woman

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Then don’t do it. I don’t because I know I have no intention of paying so no need to do the credit card fake out game. [/quote]

OP here: I actually consider your approach riskier. A man would get tired of paying and will grow resentful all the time. I do explain to the guy who proved himself being a generous person after 3 dates or so that I do contribute. I start inviting men I like for concerts, I gave men presents, covered some of the joint trip costs in the past etc. But I do explain that gender roles matter to me even in equal partners relationship. Paying for a man's drinks&food, and doing it publicly is somehow very uncomfortable to me. When I see a couple going Dutch in restaurants, her pulling out her wallet, singing a check - for some reason I feel sorry for the woman in those couples. 
That's just not for me. [/quote]

My partner and I take turns. If you see me paying you should mind your business! I am glad to be able to afford it! [/quote]

If I see a woman paying it tells me they are just dating not real partners. Partners have joint account for joint exirhsee, and no need to “alternate” [/quote]

You have a lot of ideas that are ridiculous. We have been committed for 2.5 years. I am a 60 year old widow and have no desire or NEED to comingle finances again. [/quote]

I’m not talking about commingling finances. I talk about something like a joint BlueBird or Netspend account where partners contribute pro-rats their income for joint expenses. Trips, gifts, outings. I had it with ex BF of 6 months once we became exclusive . It’s when adult people are able to sit down, disclose their incomes and budget accordingly. 
So yea, in my books you are just dating and do not have a partner [/quote]
So in order for YOU to consider any couple "real" they have to make up a new account? Ive literally never even heard of either of those, and no way I'd be combining finances with a dude of 6 months. Yikes. [/quote]

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