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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's so bizarre to me that literally the rest of the world seems to manage removing shoes just fine. Like asian grandmas are without shoes and sitting on floors until they are 100, but everyone in the US has such ailments that going without shoes for[b] 5 minutes[/b] is detrimental to their health. Honestly, maybe more americans should not wear shoes indoors to relieve some of these extreme issues. [/quote]

If you want to make a point be realistic.   The only people staying for 5 minutes are the people who leave almost immediately. 
I might be OK sans shoes for a while but it would be tough.  Fallen arches and weak ankles.  I wear usually wear orthotics.  Although with advance notice I would bring indoor shoes.[/quote]

You should seek out a good physiotherapist and orthopedist if your feet are too weak to socialize short periods. Maybe a walker or cane? Or indoor shoes? [/quote]

Not that it would be any of my host's business, but I have a disability that contributes to the foot issues.  I do use a walker but if dh is with me I lean on him.  I can't stand up unsupported, I will fall.  There are a lot of places I just don't go and op's would be one of them.[/quote]

In all honesty, why wouldn’t it be your hosts business for you to be safe? If you use a walker and can’t stand up unsupported, the you probably also have blue parking, so the fact that you have some sort of disability isn’t exactly under Top Secret clearance. I can’t imagine most people turning away your situation, even if it’s not their preference.

Can you not see that it is very different to host an entire party of shod people who don’t want to take their shoes off because they are precious about their outfit and allowing someone with a valid safety concern to keep their shoes on?

And your “not their business” thing is a red herring. Are you not your own advocate? If you feel Less than, then perhaps you need to find some assistance for that. It’s odd that you can’t differentiate. I have many friends with very severe disabilities, let me know if you need help with discussing self acceptance and advocacy. Your disability isn’t something to feel ashamed of. [/quote]

I advocate just fine.  Op's event isn't something worth the hassle of attending, not just for footwear reasons.

Of course there's a difference between a disability and fashion, but I have been to places where people still thought I should remove my shoes.

Nobody hosting a dinner needs to know any specifics of my disability.  [/quote]

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