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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is very dismissive and abusive towards SN families. I would give a kidney and an eye for my child not to have a diagnosis and to be an NT with average everything.

Just because wealthier families are able to put their kids in privates doesn't mean these are made up diagnoses purchased for money.

Well resourced families probably have more access to diagnostics (e.g. don't have to wait 2 years on a wait list for a place that takes insurance) and specialists. They may have same average incidence of ADHD but remediate it better and have a smaller proportion of untreated/undiagnosed cases than the general population. 
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+1.  I'm a parent of gifted kids with learning disabilities ("2E").  I'm SO grateful that we have the resources to support my kids but they absolutely need the help.

I'm tired of clueless and cruel parents on this forum complaining about SN kids getting all these amazing benefits.  They have NO idea how much of a slog it is for the kids and the parents, even for simple things.  This list includes: medication shortages, challenging diagnoses/co-morbidities, so many medical appointments, poor insurance coverage, difficult evaluation scheduling ($$$$$ and time), underinformed school teachers and administration, non-inclusive school communities/cruel kid (and sometimes teacher/staff) behaviors, advocacy time with schools when things go awry, tutors ($$), therapists ($$), time away from work/career sacrifices, chronic stress/sleep deprivation..... And the pandemic. HELL.

We overpaid for over a decade for an overhyped private school that was abysmal in supporting my kids.  We white knuckled it in the upper years and paid a fortune for outside help.  Selecting and trusting that school is the biggest regret of my life.  But there's so much a parent doesn't know about learning disabilities (and education needs generally) and the steep learning curve is littered with misinformation and lots of trial and error.  To this day, I'm unsure if we would have been better off sending my kids to their supposedly good but really overcrowded public schools.  Probably.  But I had heard from public parents in the trenches that the fight for resources was a nightmare for smart kids with learning disabilities. My rationale at the time was that at least our private's class sizes were small.

I am aware that plea will land on mostly deaf ears. But I"ll say it anyway.  Be kind, DCUM.

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