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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The trouble is, you think your posts are so clever and that you are so smart.
Your posts don’t come across that way. They come across as someone who is thinking very shallowly, and who is dismissive of others.
Of course, some people can grow and be happy without therapy. No one said otherwise.
But therapy helps a lot of people enormously. You want to just ignore that reality and engage in intellectual debates and one-up-manship. You seem to think that you are so superior that this thing that is so helpful for other people will be of no use to you. 
Good luck with that. 
It’s tedious. [/quote]

I'm not trying to amuse you. I think we've established the broad concept of "therapy" can mean a lot of things and a lot of them already apply to me. [b]The specific question of why people think that, by default, if you've had trauma, you must pay a stranger to pick it over and bring it all back up, is the only way to be a happy person, hasn't been answered.[/b] And I find it tedious that people like you keep trying to fall back on vague platitudes about therapy when we've quite thoroughly, and productively, covered the subject. [/quote]

DP. I don’t think anyone has said that it is the only way to be happy, or must by default be done. But I read through this thread and see a lot of people who have answered the question how it could help you, and in tangible ways.

It occurs to me that it’s possible that some of these answers sound like platitudes, bc you haven’t yet experienced what people describe. “Freedom” is a platitude until/unless it’s actually experienced.

I have no dog in this fight. You should do what you feel is best. To that end, you *are* doing some important things, and maybe they are all you need. Or maybe they are what you need now, and over time they will nudge you closer to something different.

But I wonder if it’s worth bookmarking this thread, and reading through it at different periods of your life. Yes, there’s a fair amount of judgment and snark here from strangers who don’t know you and are making assumptions based on limited data. But maybe, just maybe, there’s also more of value here than you’re recognizing right now. [/quote]

Well, a 20-something year old version of me would be slightly surprised at my current stance, but not totally. My dad's problems and the importance of separating myself from them and focusing on myself have always been obvious to me. And I hope that in 5, 10 or 20 years I haven't brought any of that negativity back into my life. But, yes, it would be interesting to compare. [/quote]

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