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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think we’ve covered pretty exhaustively that “paying someone to pick it over and bring it all back up” is not what good therapy is *at all*

People have discussed how therapy help them in ways that go way beyond mere platitudes, but you are ignoring all that

You must be really threatened by the idea of talking over your life with someone trained, who has insight, who might challenge you to change yourself and your default ways of being.

That must be very frightening for you. Or you would not be so invested in dismissing the possibility that it could be beneficial to your relationships with loved ones like your children and wife

Meditate, ride your bike— These are things done alone. I can see why they are so attractive to you. They don’t threaten your way of being an allow you to have total control. You seem full of rigid defenses and you have to diss therapy Because if it’s useless, then you are justified in not really trying it[/quote]

My wife specifically believes that I need to unpack my relationship with my father and his behavior, so that is why we keep returning to the theme of "paying someone to pick it over and bring it all back up."

I'm not objecting to parent coaching, CBT, meditation, exercise, journaling, or personal growth and self-healing of a wide variety of kinds. I'm asking about [b]the belief that if you have trauma it has to be talked over with a paid professional[/b]. [/quote]
For nany trauma survivors, we do what works until it doesn't work. It doesn't sound like op is out of control or at risk of harming self or others. For some trauma survivors, it's important to feel a sense of mastery over ones feelings and actions...relying on a therapist is a big ask in that case.[/quote]

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