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[quote=Anonymous]Hey, just FYI to all those oldest children who were parentified in big families:

I agree that sucked for you but imagine being a younger child who is raised by an older sibling who has ZERO qualifications to parent you. Like imagine getting to college and still having a limited understanding of basic hygiene or manners. Having a [resentful, angry to be doing it] 14 yr old explain what to do when your period comes by throwing some pads at you and telling you to "figure it out."

Also, when older siblings are made into parent figures for younger siblings, it also gives them a form of power over younger siblings they aren't really qualified to have. So sometimes younger siblings are abused and harassed by older siblings who feel entitled to do so because "they are in charge." Like the time my older brother soaked my toddler brother's hands in turpentine to try and get him to stop sucking his thumb, or the time our oldest brother and sister forced the rest of us to clean up vomit and other bodily fluids from a party they'd thrown while our parents were out of town.

Children should NOT be parenting children. Leaving your kids to parent each other is bad for ALL of them. That's what actual, adult parents are supposed to be for. If you don't want to actually raise all your kids, Do Not Have Them.[/quote]

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