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[quote=Anonymous]No I don't. Do you want to come over and read to them?

[quote=Anonymous]Chipotle Lady's OP from last week:

[quote]I need details.

Here is how my day is:

I wake up with the 4mo old sucking on my boob at around 8am. 2yo starts calling and I can hear through the monitor. 
I walk to the kitchen rubbing my eyes and while holding 4mo I prepare 2yo's cup of milk. 
While yawning I give 2yo the cup and change 4mo old. 
2yo is done with the cup I put 4mo old in 2yo's crib so I can help 2yo get ready and the screaming starts. 
2yo gets nervous with 4mo old screaming and starts yelling BABY IS CRYING BABY IS CRYING and starts pulling her hair, hitting herself and crying too. 
We finally manage to get her dressed and go to the living room.

One handed I prepare 2yo's bfast with her crawling between my legs, climbing on a chair or stool to see what I'm doing or trying to fit inside the pantry and locking herself in there. The meal is usually a fresh fruit cut up, a glass of fresh made juice (made the night before) and a bite of left over dinner that is usually too hot because I can never get the darn timing right in the microwave. This is all around 9 - 9:30am

We sit on the LR floor with the TV on and 2yo eats while I feed 4mo old. I then spend 10 minutes trying to lay a blanket on the floor for 4mo old to do tummy time. 2yo starts pulling on it, rolling on it, grabbing it and wearing it, I hold myself not to scream and in between I had to clean up 3 or 4 barfs from 4mo old from all the shaking. As soon as we manage to lay 4mo old on the blanket the screaming starts. And 2yo joins the chorus screaming BABY IS CRYING BABY IS CRYING STOP BABY STOOOOOOOOOOP. When I look at the clock is 11am

I then proceed to the kitchen to fix 2yo's lunch. Usually something that I cooked over the weekend that gets heated up. One handed again I make the plate and place it in the microwave. The 10 seconds that takes me to place 4mo old on the floor, bouncy, swing, whatever and grab 2.5yo to help with sitting on the highchair are hell, again pure screaming from both kids. I give 2yo her food, she eats by herself while I feed 4mo old to sleep. 2yo screams her head off while I'm rocking 4mo old to sleep.

4mo old sleeps, 2yo is cleaned up and taken down and we proceed to the LR again. I park 2yo in front of the TV once again with a bowl of fresh fruit and run to the kitchen to eat my breakfast that is already my lunch. I look at the clock and it's already noon. I sit to eat my food 2yo starts getting into stuff, I leave my food go scold her and come back to my cold plate that I finish eating sitting on the LR floor playing a game with her or just watching TV with her.

I take her to the kitchen with me, she "helps" me to put the dishes from the DW away, we clean up from bfast/lunch and it's already 1PM!!! 4mo old is screaming and wants to eat AGAIN. I grab the baby, we sit in the LR while I feed the kiddo. 2yo is either watching TV or running around like crazy.

I then put 4mo old in the jumperoo and the screaming starts again, from both kids. I prepare a sippy of milk to the 2yo and we all go to the nursery to prepare for nap time. Baby in the crib, mom helping toddler. Undies come off, diapers go on and the screaming is still on.

I put the toddler in the crib, give her the milk and hold the baby. We leave the nursery and tot sings herself to sleep. It's 2pm.

I'm tired, still in my PJs, didn't even brush my teeth. I forgot to mention 2yo won't go pee or poop in the little potty so every single time she has to go (I mean, once every 20 minutes or so) I put the baby down and they both start screaming.

I feed the baby and beg him to go to sleep. We usually lay in bed so he can get tummy time and I can recover. He screams because he wants to be held. I scream because I can't hold him 24/7. He won't stay anywhere without screaming, including the maya wrap, the ergo, the moby wrap, the baby bjorn, and the hotsling. Yup, we've tried them all.

Baby falls asleep again around 3pm. I then pass out in bed for 10 minutes, then I get up and clean the mess we made, throw in a load of clothes or maybe wipe the toilets/bath tub oh, and drink a sip of juice I made the night before. When I think I'll have time to do something relaxing or just to rest I start hearing the toddler calling. It's 3:30pm.

Repeat the chaos from the morning until around 7pm, include a desperate try to give them a bath/shower and after a lot of screaming they both fall asleep at around 8:30pm.

I then fix my plate and have dinner. I put all the dishes in the DW, run it and head to the bedroom to sleep. I have no energy to even shower! If we're lucky I get to squeeze a trip to the grocery store in the morning or maybe take them to the park but it's so hard to get them both out of the house I don't know what's worse.

Night time is half awake every 2 hours or so feeding 4mo old on demand (I avoid looking at the clock) or waking up to comfort 2yo who has bad dreams.

We have absolutely no playdates. First because I'm embarrassed to have people over. Our house is a mess. Second because people expect me to leave the baby with a sitter so I can supervise my child and talk to the host during the playdate and this is not happening, sorry. Who will watch my 4mo old for 3 hours randomly during the week?

2yo knows all her letters, colors and numbers until 20 thanks to Sesame Street and Super Why. We don't read together, I never sat down to teach her about numbers, letters or colors. She never played with playdoh or paint. She rarely gets to play with crayons or markers.

I feel horrible.

It's the exact same thing every freaking day.

How is YOUR routine with 2 kids this age?

I need help![/quote]

You forgot to mention that you spend ALL DAY on DCUM.  A lot of people wasted their time trying to help you, OP.   You are a fraud so stop whining.  Please stop acting like you are a victim here.

I feel sorry for your kids.  You never read to them?[/quote][/quote]

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