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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH makes enough money for me not to work right now. I quit a job that I hated last year and haven't looked for a new one. My kids are in school all day now. I'm enjoying for the first time in 20 years a chance to just decompress. 
Over the weekend, my ILs came over to babysit. My MIL, half-jokingly, asked me when I was going to stop "sitting around like a sadsack." I don't know if she thinks I'm depressed and that's why I don't work or what, but it was really offensive and caught me off guard in the moment. As background - she is a retired lawyer and so is her husband. She worked all the time and values that in a person so I imagine my choosing not to work is foreign and lazy for her to comprehend.
I sat with it for a few days and then emailed her to say that I was hurt by her remarks and that I'm enjoying some much-needed time off. 
She hasn't responded yet but I'm still fuming. My DH said he understood my feelings but that working and ambition is very important to his mother, she worked hard to get where she was and that's where she was coming from. 
My MIL is not on this forum I don't think (she's way too busy for that) so here I am venting about it...[/quote]

When last year?

I mean, there's taking break, and then there's being lazy and a mooch.

So if it was like November or something, it's probably time to get with the job hunt. If it was March of April, you're into mooch territory and my guess is your DH is actually annoyed and said something to his mother.[/quote]

I'm OP. Not planning to work for a while. My DH is fine with it. We can afford it. What do you mean by mooch territory? That's really offensive and in my mind anti-feminist! Wow. But I guess I know that my MIL is not alone in her mindset![/quote]

OP - a SAHM here - work in the home is not valued and not seen as honest work unless it’s hired help - at least by people like this poster. My family loves that everything is calm in our home, laundry done, house clean, I can come pick up from practice at a moments notice, can get things done for my husband during the day so he has more time later and still have time for myself to exercise and take care of my own health. It’s great. My kids are in high school and need me more than ever. I have a kid that has multiple practices after school  - would I be my best self if I worked, tried to find a carpool, felt frazzled and stressed, picking up take-out all the time and always rushing?

[b]A wise friend that went back to work told me the truth is you can’t be excellent at a job and also be an excellent mom. There is a trade-off.

The people that call this mooching are just jealous. [/b]
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More sh#t insecure people say to make themselves feel better. If you must rag on someone elses choices you arent very secure in your own. [/quote]

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