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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is all about inner drive. Full stop. 
Beyond that, if you do happen to have a genuinely driven kid it is a parents' core responsibility to support them in time, money and encouragement to fulfill their potential.

Rationalize as many do, but any parent who does not do so has seriously done a disservice to their child.[/quote]

My husband loves tennis. He never had formal tennis lessons. He did make his high school tennis team. He would never make the team around here but back in the early nineties, being athletic and able to hit a tennis ball was enough.

My kids have played tennis since preschool. They played daily during Covid. We have the resources to provide them with the right coaching. [b]A kid who is playing for fun has no chance against my kid who has played almost every day since being able to hold a racquet[/b].[/quote]

And who really cares? The commodification of sports/intense focus on success in sports as the end is doing more harm than good for your kids. They're burning out, getting injured, suffering mental health, and parents are overspending chasing the delusion that they can mold their kid into a athlete when the ultimate goal should be enjoying the process of sports. Your unathletic but well coached tennis player is not going to play in the U.S. Open and it's weird and unhinged to compare him to a casual for parental bragging rights [/quote]

DP but what about PPs kid suggested they were "unathletic" seems like you're just looking to be a jerk. Do you have any data to support that student athletes are in worse shape mentally and physically compared to the non-student athletes? I haven't heard of a kid on the tennis team shooting up a school recently, have you?[/quote]

Oh, and if their kid was really athletic, they wouldn't have compared them (as a player that plays everyday) to a kid that plays casually. Athletes (and their parents) don't typically compare themselves to casuals... it's the other way around.[/quote]

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I believe that PPs point was that sheer talent without the effort doesn't mean you can up and beat a kid at tennis who has been working hard even if they are marginally talented. That's the whole point of Gladwell's Outliers. Practice takes you from good to great, but you won't ever be great without the work. [/quote]

I agree with that thesis. But, My point is that a great athlete that also trains everyday would be embarrassed to even be compared to an athlete that plays a sport casually at best. PP's tennis playing child is either unathletic or would be horrified to know their mom thinks that's a legitimate comparison. 😆[/quote]

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