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[quote=Anonymous]I can't stop laughing about the meth comment. Especially when you know that gentle parenting is mostly aimed at parents of toddlers and preschoolers. It perfectly embodies who people misunderstand gentle parenting.

Because honestly, if your 4 year old is crying and crying for meth, I actually feel like gentle parenting is your go-to there. First, do they know what meth is? I feel like the don't, so maybe start by educating them, explain what meth is, how it impacts people, they'll probably lose interest. Classic "redirection" technique.

But okay, let's say the 4 year old know what meth is and is hooked on meth. The PP says "discipline them." But no? That doesn't sound right. I mean what I'd suggest there is take them to a physician? I don't think taking away screen time or putting them in time out is going to resolve the meth addiction.

Also, someone on meth isn't going to link cause and effect very well. Maybe later, after they are no longer on meth, you can sit down and discuss some consequences for them taking meth after you presumably (?) told them not to, and also discuss how you will do a better job as their parent to keep them from accessing meth. This is called "mutual accountability" and is also a gentle parenting method.

Actually "4 year old on meth" is not a terrible analogy for "4 year old having a meltdown" because other than the involvement of CPS, the 4 year old has about the same ability to reason through right and wrong in those situations. Part of gentle parenting is recognizing that when a kid is in the middle of a melt down, it's not the best time to lecture/yell/punish, because they are not thinking clearly and will just react. So instead you provide calm (gentleness) to help them regulate, and THEN when they are in a regulated place, you have a conversation about consequences or how to handle a similar situation in the future. Kind of like how meth addicts have to get off meth before doing their court-demanded therapy and community service.[/quote]

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