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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Gentle parenting is for lazy people and likes spoiling their kids

Dicipline your kids. It's common sense. My mom was a drunk I did not become one.
We don't always turn like them.

If a kid is crying, crying, asks for meth, will you give him? No.
You dicipline them. No larlo, you can't have that. Cry if you want, that's ok.
Feel your emotions, you can be angry but not act on it

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Uh, whose child is crying for meth?!

Anyway, I think kids need boundaries and limits. They need to hear "no, you cannot do that" or "no, I can't let you do that." They don't know much and are new at everything and they need someone to guide them which obviously means "no."

I believe in discipline when a child has violated a known rule on purpose. I get confused on this thread and elsewhere when people talk about discipline in situations where kids are just crying or whining. Like yes I will discipline my child for being rude to me or refusing to clean up after herself or misbehaving at school. But I don't discipline her for just crying or being upset, or even for being whiny or annoying. I might "redirect" (that's a gentle parenting word) when she whines, and in some cases if she is crying or upset I might let her be alone with it for a bit and not necessarily sit there validating or whatever. But I don't punish her. That stuff is just being human, expressing emotions. Kids cry. I feel like a lot of people on this thread just want to be able to yell at kids to stop them crying and that's going to backfire in the long run, IMO.[/quote]

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