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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oookay.

Consider talking to your husband when you come back. Let him know that you wish you were better prepared.

[b]Having to bathe out of the bucket is not the end of the world.[/b] Not eating chicken nuggets is not the end of the world. Being constantly cold would be, so keep your list reasonable, and see how you can work around it, the next time you go. Maybe he goes first and you join him later, to keep your portion of the trip shorter. Tell him you want to see the country, not just sit at home. This will automatically get you to places where you will have access to different food, shopping, etc.

And unless you have very young kids, work on expanding their palate. There are things you can do here to make your next trip easier.[/quote]

OP here. Have you done this for a MONTH? I think not. Our kids are very young, and we were advised that boxed food would be better. We all got super sick during the last trip. Please let me know what we can do to make our trip easier... I planned how to make this trip easier for months.. there is only so much you can do. His family doesn't live close to a big city.. there isn't a lot of shopping and restaurants around... going out to restaurants and using a supermarket is a newer concept here...

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OP, you sounds really spoiled. You actually sound a lot like the "children of immigrant" american kids who go back to visit their parents home countries and then freak out at the differences.

I'm, one, by the way. I've used buckets to bathe for a month at a time. If you do it right, you actually get much, much cleaner than a typical shower. I agree that when it's cold, bukcet baths are harder.

It's all very good for your soul. You will survive. You may realize you need less.[/quote]

You sound like some troll. OP is not spoiled to expect warm running water in her bathroom, and food that doesn’t make them sick and is available in sufficient amounts. [b]You, PP, and OP’s DH all moved to the US to escape those awful conditions[/b] and now you act like people who expect ma minimum of comfort and hygiene are spoilt? Give me a break![/quote]

Thank you. Just love all the aunties sitting in their big US houses with showers and toilets and conveniences and safety critiscising and scolding someone who is having a tough time. That you wouldn't live in or go back to. [/quote]

Who said we aunties wouldn't go back to visit? We do and become resourceful and teach our kids the same. My kids had only visited when they were little and didn't remember anything. Last year when we went in their teens it was a culture shock but they enjoyed attending events, adjusted for the most part, enjoyed the roadside sugarcane juice (take your own water), enjoyed shopping to a certain extent. We kept it short at 3 weeks. We had toilet not flushing issues and they learned to catch water in a small bucket and pour water into the bowl with force a few times. Bathing with a bucket and mug was not an issue. Most of all, they loved the food and the pampering.

What they hated was the bugs and lizards and lack of cleanliness. We stopped at a super market and got handsoaps (in an Indian village).[/quote]

One of our longest trips back home, was after DH’s mom passed away. DD was 7. On the flight over, I told her that this trip would be different from the previous ones. She won’t have anyone catering to her, there won’t be any fun trips, going out to eat or visiting parks, and my expectation was that she will take care of herself with absolutely no fuss.

The house had been in some disrepair because MIL had been sick in the months leading to her death, so the water heaters weren’t working, birds had gotten in and pooped all over the place, the room air conditioners weren’t working, etc. She helped with cleaning up the bedroom and bathroom and changing sheets (did balk at lizard poop), took showers with no assistance or complaints, ate whatever was put in front of her (food is not cooked at home after a death, and this was not things she was used to, plus very spicy), entertained herself, and was generally so well behaved, even other people noticed.

My 7 year old showed better resilience than this grown woman. [/quote]

It's not like op is complaining to his family. She has her feelings and they are valid. It's an anonymous forum. Why are peoples comfort levels offensive. She's nothing the differences and getting home sick for her everyday comforts. It's human nature to compare. [/quote]

She could be problem solving instead of whining. She might be able to have a decent time if he did more of the former and less of the latter.[/quote]

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