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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I visit India with my American spouse and our kids we are so busy with meeting family and friends, traveling and shopping that we barely have a moment to sit down. And we eat all the local food like there’s no tomorrow, with sensible precautions. We go for 2 weeks. A month would be heaven. I don’t think I’d be writing essays on DCUM.[/quote]

It sounds like, from what OP is describing, her DH is strictly limiting how much they leave the house and isn’t going along with travel, food, shopping plans and she isn’t familiar enough with the area/doesn’t feel safe enough to do these things alone.

My DH isn’t from the US and we stayed in (compared to where we live in the US) modest accommodations when visiting his family. It was a great trip because we went into town, sightseeing, out to shops and restaurants etc. If he told me it was dangerous to leave the house alone and also that he didn’t want to do anything it would have been miserable. [/quote]

DP and I agree. I think some on this thread have missed, or intentionally ignored, what OP has said several times over, about how her DH and his family just do not and will not sightsee, shop, go to restaurants (the posters who keep insisting There! Are! Restaurants! refuse to get that this family doesn't like eating out at all). While OP isn't doing anything to expand her horizons there, neither are her in-laws and DH doing anyting to try to show her and the kids a good time beyond "Stay home and let extended family come visit." Of course this visit is to spend time with family, but having made dozens of trips to my DH's family overseas, I also know the feeling of "I'd like to shop, see a historic site, take the kids on an outing one day instead of staying home for/being hauled to relatives." Fortunately my in-laws always think ahead and plan some sightseeing and events to take in but sounds like OP's in-laws just "visit." And for an entire month, that gets wearing.[/quote]

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