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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If a group has been friends for a long time, this is a place of real vulnerability, discussing marriages, mental illness, kid challenges.  Time is precious and it's hard to find time to get together.  This time is sacred.  You are not entitled to join their group.  Queen bee was rude, without a doubt though.[/quote]

This is a weird response because OP was an invited guest. She didn't crash. If the women in this group don't want to extend the group to others, they can figure this out amongst themselves, but OP is "entitled" to go to a get together to which she has been invited, and is also entitled to a baseline level of respect while there.

Also, OP's time investment matters too. You are acting like her presence stole valuable bonding time from these women (even though they were always free to get together without inviting her, OP did nothing to prevent this). In reality, these women are wasting OP's time with catty behavior. She is looking to invest energy in friendships and instead she has had to tolerate this woman's rudeness.

These ladies need to grow up. If you want to get together with old friends and no newcomers, do so, nothing is stopping you. But this queen bee's crap behavior and the willingness of the others to tolerate it are childish and rude. If I were OP I'd move on because I'd rather spend time alone than waste previous hours on these middle school antics.

I also bet you anything that most of these women won't even speak to each other in 3 years. They think their friendship is so precious but their kids will get older and move in and most of these connections will loosen or even break.[/quote]

DP.  Fair point.  [b]I've had a few friends ask to join my friend group and I have been tempted to be inclusive, mostly because I feel bad for them, but really, it doesn't work.[/b][/quote]

Why doesn’t it “work?” [/quote]

Because there are years and years of experiences, inside jokes and short hand that new people cannot pick up easily.  Also people want to be able to let their hair down, not be on their best behavior around new people.[/quote]

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